Welcome to The Courageous Entrepreneur Show. This is the show that shares information and inspiration to help you move past fear, self-doubt, and limiting beliefs so you can achieve the success you dream of and deserve.
In this episode you’re going to meet Sheila Stevenson. She’s an expert coach who works with people dealing with emotional issues surrounding trauma.
Sheila is an Associate Certified Coach, an Adler trained coach, and a member of the International Coach Federation.
She’s certified in “Living Systems Approach” to coaching with families and she’s completed Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training.
Sheila is a published author, and an inspiring and informative speaker.
She’s a member of “Opening the Circle”, an emergent project begun in January 2014, in which men and women who are survivors of sexual abuse, their family members, and community service providers meet regularly to develop community, and to create useful and effective tools for support. In January 2013 Sheila founded the “Learning and Support Group for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse.” And she’s served on the Board of Directors of Child Pornography Hurts, Inc and Youth Opportunities Unlimited.
In this episode Sheila shares…
Be sure to listen all the way to the end where I’ll share your reflection exercise and action step for this episode.
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From Sheila’s Blog: Trauma Can Obscure Your Reality — Don’t Let It
Survivor to Thriver: Manual and workbook for adult survivors of child abuse who want to move on with life
I recently went to a live seminar in California. The event was very powerful and, while I love taking part in webinars, webcasts, and live streams from the comfort of my home, there’s nothing like meeting your virtual connections at a live event.
I had such a great experience at this event that I wanted to share my best tips to maximize your value from the next live event you attend.
1. Choose the right event. There are hundreds if not thousands of training events held each year in the United States alone. And of course they all sound fascinating. I love learning and if I was independently wealthy I’d go to all sorts of workshops. But since time is limited in a way that money isn’t (you can’t get more time but you can always find a way to get more money), you’ve got to choose the best event for you and your business right now. So start by asking yourself how fast will I be able to use the information they’ll be sharing.
2. Manage your schedule well before, during, and after the event. I know lots of Internet gurus don’t advertise too far in advance so you may need to shuffle your schedule to be able to attend a really great event. But as you manage your time, do your best to minimize what’s on your calendar the day before you head out of town and the day after you come back. You need time to prepare and pack, as well as time to reflect on and apply the information shared when you get back. And set the expectations of people back home – whether your friends and family, your staff, and clients. Let them know how easy or hard it will be to reach you and who they can contact instead, along with how they can contact you in an emergency.
3. Stay at the event hotel whenever possible. Boy this makes a big difference in your overall enjoyment of the event. If you’ve ever been to an event with hundreds or even thousands in a hotel you know how nice it is to be able to sneak up to your hotel room on a break. And if you’re attending a multi-day event with early activities and late activities, staying at the event hotel makes it a lot easier to get to the next day’s seminars with less stress and hassle.
4. Get clear on what you want from the event and set that intention. You hear a lot of great information at a live event, especially a multi-day one. It can be overwhelming if you’re not centered and focused on what you most want to get from attending the event. Your intention could range from learning more about a specific topic to be covered to meeting a specific type of person, to anything else that will make you feel the event was valuable.
5. Take good notes. I like to have one notebook dedicated to the event so I can put It in a file where I won’t lose it. You might want to take notes into an online tool like Evernote or One Note. You might want to use my notebook idea. Not every session or every event provides handouts to guide your note taking so you want to make sure you feel good about how you’ll take notes so you can actually refer to them later.
Summarize key takeaways and make note of how’ll you’ll apply the information. I think it’s a good idea to talk through your ideas with a friend or colleague, whether they know what was covered in the event or not. It’s in the explanation that things get processed in our minds and connected in our hearts. Start putting integration / application time into your calendar and don’t expect instantaneous results or a miraculous improvement.
6. Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Look, as much as I love learning, I’m an introvert. Just being around a lot of people can be emotionally draining for me. But pushing beyond our comfort zone and being uncomfortable is an important part of the learning process. Here are a few simple ways you can stretch yourself:
7. Introduce yourself to others. I know that sounds ridiculous but I really have to push myself to do this. I’m a “don’t speak unless spoken to” kind of person so it really is a push to introduce myself to other people.
8. Switch seats and tables if it’s a multi-day event. I’m sure there’s some sort of psychological study that could be done on the issue of how committed to and protective of “my seat” people get. As uncomfortable as it is, push yourself to do this if possible and if it feels right in the group. I’ve actually watched grownups – managers — get into an argument at a seminar I was leading at their company when one of them sat in what the other perceived was his seat. It wasn’t pretty. So do it if you feel safe in the group.
If you can’t switch seats, at least sit with people you don’t know so you can expand your network.
9. Don’t eat alone. This can be hard, especially if you’re an introvert like me and you need some down time. But try. Especially if it’s only a one day event. Find a way to eat at least one meal with other attendees. We build relationships with others over food. It really is an important networking and relationship building opportunity. And hey, a whole book was written on this premise.
10. Participate in activities. I’ve been to conferences that have offered tours of the surrounding area, held concerts, scheduled dinners, had parties, and run various networking events. One conference I attended had an ice cream social! If you feel up to it, attend at least one. Part of the benefit of attending an event like this is building your network but you have to actually….you know…NETWORK.
11. Apply for a hot seat if possible. Hot seats are activities where you get a few minutes on stage with the guru running the event. You typically have to fill out an application and yours is chosen if the problem you want to solve is something that others in attendance are likely wrestling with. I applied for and participated in my first hot seat at this recent event. I never felt adequate enough before. When you think about it, the leader running your event likely gets hundreds if not thousands of dollars for their time; so for you to get even a few minutes of focused attention is a great benefit. Take advantage of it.
12. Practice good self care. Rarely are these events monuments to healthy eating and plentiful rest. The ones I go to are typically from about 8am to as late as 6pm. Then there are activities or at least dinner to go to with your fellow participants. Do your best to stay on your typical eating schedule and adhering to your standard diet. Drink lots of water and get adequate rest. If possible, at least get some walking in if you can’t get in your standard workout activity.
13. Stay connected to and active in the group. A Facebook group is sort of minimum of post event support or connectivity for attendees. Some don’t seem to survive but some groups really take off and they become a strong support for post-event. The group can give feedback on application of strategies, share resources, and even provide coaching. A good percentage of my clients come from Facebook groups I participate in and most of those groups are off-shoots of a course I took, several of them were live, in-person events.
14. Take fast, imperfect action. This is one of those things we cognitively KNOW to do but often can struggle with when our perfectionism, fears, and self-doubt can take over. Confidence is unfortunately one of those things that comes about after action is taken. Courage is what’s needed in order to take action. To make this easier, pick one small thing you can do right away that will take a small amount of courage but will produce big confidence. The faster you do it, the more powerful and confident you’ll feel.
I know I learn best by taking part in a live training or information session. Recordings are great but they don’t provide the same depth of experience. If that’s true for you, then be sure to build some revenue into your budget to allow for at least one live event each year to build your skills and your network. Just be sure to choose the right event for you and your business.
When we were in corporate life we could consider ourselves lucky if we had one good work friend who shared our workspace or who we worked on projects with.
Whether you’re a corporate escapee or an accidental entrepreneur, one of the dreams you may have had when you started your coaching, consulting, or other expertise-based business was that you could work with people you genuinely like, even love.
So imagine the fun, the excitement of building a business with your best friend.
Even in the struggles, you’ve got someone to share the ups and downs, to lighten the load, and to help maximize revenue.
But what happens when it suddenly ends — and it ends because of a tragedy?
In today’s episode you’ll meet Everett O’Keefe the owner of an agency called The Solution Machine.
Listen in and you’ll hear him share…
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Each of us goes through a variety of challenges as we move through our lives from childhood through adulthood.
Those challenges leave us with emotional and psychological wounds that can vary from superficial scratches to deep cuts.
How we respond to those situations is unique to each of us; and what one person may feel is not a big deal, another person may experience as profoundly wounding.
Over time, an accumulation of small wounds that are unaddressed could result in a deep emotional injury.
Often without our even realizing it.
And the strategies we adopt to deal with the slings and arrows of life as well as with circumstances that are profoundly hurtful — like losing a job, getting divorced, being the victim of a crime, chronic bullying and more — can eventually become ineffective and actively hold us back when we’re out on our own as independent professionals.
In this episode of The Courageous Entrepreneur Show, you’ll meet my friend and colleague Nancy Philpott.
Nancy is a registered Nurse, a hypnotherapist, and an emotional health strategist and coach. She’s the Chief Transformation Officer for Heart Sync Wellness Center and Founder of the Emotional Resilience Challenge and the Emotional Resilience Academy.
Nancy’s specialty is helping nurses, health professionals, military service members, caregivers, and their family members recognize, prevent, and recover from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Compassion Fatigue, and burnout.
Listen in as Nancy and I discuss…
Keep in mind that we’re speaking in big terms here. We’re not doctors and we’re not giving medical advice.
This episode is designed to educate and inform. So if you think you’ve got an issue and need help, contact a local healthcare professional and if you feel as though you’re at the end of your rope, be sure to dial 911.
Remember, it’s courageous and brave to ask for help.
Be sure to stick around until the end of the interview where I’ll share your reflection exercise and action step for this episode.
Nancy and her team of experts provide tips, tools, and emotional investment strategies to help you build emotional resilience. Go to EmotionalResilienceChallenge.com to join the free 10-day challenge.
You can visit her at HeartSyncWellness.com to learn more about the programs and resources available.
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Aligning faith and work isn’t easy.
When business coach Ed Rush invited me to a workshop he was putting on in San Diego that he called Ultimate Breakthrough that would specifically discuss how to merge faith with growing a business, I knew I had to attend.
It was a great event for many reasons but it really through me for a loop.
While at that event I realized that there was a calling I was resisting. That event — and specifically Melvin’s message — helped me give in to that call and start this show.
I made sure to connect with him on Facebook and I make sure to watch his daily videos for my “daily dose of Melvin”.
If you’ve ever felt trapped in a pit of unworthiness…knowing you were called for more but afraid to take action, then I hope this episode speaks to you.
My guest grew up in apartheid South Africa as one of six children in a Hindu family. They were incredibly poor living in a tin shack with no running water. But he was greatly influenced by his mother and her belief in Jesus.
She used to tell him that if he ever wanted anything he was to pray to Jesus.
Melvin went from spending $2 to rent an audio tape of the legendary speaker Zig Ziglar to becoming a vice president in the Ziglar organization. Today, he’s a an advisor to CEOs, political leaders, and entrepreneurs looking to take themselves, their countries, and their businesses to new heights of success in a way that’s consistent with their faith.
In this episode of The Courageous Entrepreneur show Melvin reveals…
…and so much more.
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Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill
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We all have times when we want feedback on something we’re working on. Sure, we’re independent entrepreneurs but we all like to know what others think before we go too far down a rabbit hole or discover too late that what we’re working on isn’t going to fly.
This is one of the best things about Facebook and especially Facebook Groups, where contacts share their opinions and where you can get feedback pretty quickly.
I see lots of people asking for help throughout any given day and I’ve noticed some common mistakes made. We’ve all tripped over at least one of these. Which ones keep you from getting and benefiting from great feedback?
Before you ask for feedback or for people’s opinions about something you’re working on get clear about what you’re asking for, why you’re asking, who you’re asking, and what you’ll do with the opinions you get.
Ultimately you’re responsible for the results you get and being courageous means cultivating the ability to ask for and receive feedback, while having the confidence that you know enough and are good enough already to achieve your goals.
Millions of people dream of ditching their corporate or organizational job to start their own business. Hundreds of thousands of people do it each year, few of them are successful.
Watch and listen in as M. Shannon Hernandez shares…
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When my friend and colleague, Shanna Landolt, shared on Facebook that she deals with depression I was shocked and moved.
I couldn’t believe that someone who appeared to have it all together — a thriving business…appearances in the media…..multiple best selling books. — could be depressed.
In addition to being a top recruiter in the pharmaceutical and biotech industries, Shanna is also a highly sought after media authority as a Career and LinkedIn Expert. She’s been featured all across North America on NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX, CityTV & CTV.
Shanna has authored 6 books and is a 4x #1 International Best Selling Author. She works with authors to launch their books as #1 Best Sellers on Amazon.
Entrepreneurs, Organizations and People interested in Career Advancement hire Shanna to create compelling LinkedIn Profiles that get them found for their expertise.
Organizations hire Shanna as a Keynote Speaker at Industry Events to share how to create a personal brand in your business using Social Media & LinkedIn.
So you can understand how I would look at her and all she’s done and think “She can’t possibly be depressed!”
But her post moved me because it helped me recognize and admit to myself that depression has followed me my entire life.
I could see I’m not alone as an entrepreneur who manages depression.
So listen in as Shanna shares…
Shanna’s book, Secrets From a Headhunter
Official definition of Depression at the American Psychological Association’s website
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The book, Brand Power Builder and its author, Duncan Moss of Moss Media Solutions.
This book is a field guide for serious entrepreneurs and business owners who understand the importance of owning and growing a strong Internet presence. You’ll discover the 9 powerful steps to:
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Once we make the decision to go out on our own, it’s inevitable that we’ll start comparing ourselves to others who are also self-employed.
This type of behavior is deeply ingrained in us and can be seen in toddlers who recognize that another child has something they don’t and then baby B tries to take that thing away from baby A.
Growing up we’re compared to siblings, classmates, and neighbors in addition to seeing mass media and comparing ourselves to the rail thin models, journalists, and actors.
There’s healthy comparison which can work to empower us and then there’s unhealthy comparison which works to disempower and demoralize us.
Let’s look at the two of them.
Healthy comparison happens when you’re doing research and you look at the leaders in your profession or industry and you search for best practices and what works with the focus on reducing your learning curve or your path on the way to a specific outcome.
You look at websites for what’s working in terms of layout and content. You study offerings to see how things are packaged.
Then you think about what you’ve found and borrow what you like that works and modify it to fit yourself and your background.
During healthy comparison you don’t judge yourself as lacking or the other person as better than you. They’re where they are on their path and you’re where you are on yours.
Unhealthy comparison is when you look at what others do and focus on your inadequacy.
They’ve got a better website. They’re more successful. They’re more attractive. They speak better. Their message is more powerful.
Here the focus is not on what you can learn from them but on how lacking you are.
For an entrepreneur this is the path to depression, frustration, and misery.
This sort of comparison can happen even in supposedly supportive groups like a mastermind, accountability, or course group and that can lead to competition within the group.
But that’s not exactly negative.
Healthy competition is when the success of one person doesn’t mean failure for another. Where each member of the group is truly happy for the other and uses their colleague’s success as inspiration. Another’s success can be motivating. This happened with me when I met my friend John Cote, the host of the podcast Healthcare Elsewhere.
I met John not long after he launched the show and found his story so inspiring that I decided to launch my own show.
John’s attitude was “if I can do it anyone can” and I believed that too.
They’re different and we’re different.
But I think we all know the pain of comparing ourselves – especially in business – and finding ourselves lacking. Like I said, it can lead to depression and demotivation.
Here are 7 things you can do.
Focusing on your own issues…taking care of yourself…being grateful for everything in your life…all of that is important for you to manage your stress, stay motivated, and to continue growing in a healthy way.