Those are the words we all dream of hearing from clients, isn’t it?
I heard them twice in the past 6 weeks.
I also heard, “You’re the only person I’d want to work with on this.”
That came from a potential JV partner who wanted to discuss a potentially lucrative project idea he had.
Let me tell you what I did — that you can do too — that got the right people – to say those things to me and how you can hear them too.
No one wants diet tips from Kate Moss. We want diet tips from Jennifer Hudson, Marie Osmond, and others who’ve struggled and won the battle. Your mistakes, obstacles, or challenges aren’t wounds; they’re medals of honor. Wear them proudly.
Just make sure you’re using your story to help others learn the key points you want them to get out of your message. Remember, there are 4 steps to the marketing / sales process: educate, elevate, inspire, and invite.
Believe me, I’m not perfect when I do them. And that’s what they actually like most.
If you’re resisting using video or audio, ask yourself why. If you can stay focused on the message your sharing and the people who need and want to hear it you’ll become a lot less self-conscious
We all want clients to come to us ready to buy. And it would be fabulous if JV partners came to us convinced we’d be a perfect match for each other.
To achieve that, we’ve got to get comfortable with and clear about our message, then have the courage to put it out there.
Don’t worry about the people who unsubscribe, tune out, or disconnect from you. They wouldn’t have bought anyway. You don’t need that many buyers to make a really good living and from there you need a few passionate advocates to help you share your story.
But it all starts with a clear message that you courageously share.
So what’s holding you back from getting your message out there?
I could read by the time I was 3 and entered Kindergarten reading at a 3rd grade level.
My parents read mysteries so that’s what they bought me, starting with Encyclopedia Brown, Boy Detective.
I soon progressed to Nancy Drew and read every story more than once.
By the summer I turned 9 I had read every book that was even remotely appropriate. So when my mother came home from work one rainy summer day and found me reading one of her police procedurals, she knew she had to do something.
She took it away from me, handed me another book, and said “Here. This should keep you busy.”
To say I loved it would be a gross understatement.
I read that book over and over and over.
And soon I discovered the rest of the Canon: 56 short stories and 4 novels.
I was in heaven.
I found them in the library and soon started receiving books as gifts, including my prized possession – the two-volume set of The Annotated Sherlock Holmes by William S. Baring-Gould.
In Sherlock, I didn’t just find entertainment through good stories with quirky characters, I found a mentor. A hero.
And a bit of myself.
Sherlock taught me how to observe, how to think, and how to make deductions — sometimes leaps — based on those observations.
Of course I also learned that at home. When you grow up in an abusive environment you tend to develop those skills as you try to avoid triggering the abuse. So reading people and situations quickly and well becomes an important skill.
Sherlock has enjoyed a renaissance in the last few years, especially with the BBC’s modern version starring Benedict Cumberbatch.
I love Sherlock. More now than ever.
And I promise you it has nothing to do with Mr. Cumberbatch and his singular characterization of the Great Detective.
Sherlock was a hit from the start. And when his creator, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle decided he’d had enough of the character he’d created, he knew he needed to get rid of him once and for all. So he crafted a story that had Sherlock plunge to his death in a fight with his arch-enemy, “the Napoleon of Crime”, Professor Moriarty.
The outcry was deafening.
Fashionable men of the day wore black arm bands over their suit coats in mourning.
He is truly an iconic character. So much so that Time magazine featured him in one of their special editions: “The 100 Most Influential People Who Never Lived.”
His image or quotes from the stories (including the misquoted, “elementary, my dear Watson”) have been used to sell all sorts of products and services, much to the chagrin of the Doyle estate I’m sure.
And we know of Sherlock’s impact on forensic science.
But Sherlock even has lessons for us as entrepreneurs. He was self-employed after all.
So since January 6th was his unofficial birthday I wanted to share some branding lessons we can learn from The Great Detective.
Have a clear point of view and don’t be afraid to share it. Whether in modern times or his original, Victorian time period, Sherlock was always direct to say the least.
Be a thought leader. Holmes regularly talked about the “monographs” he published including one on cigar ash. His reputation went far and wide so heads of state and the local police force sought out his advice.
Work on projects that entertain and challenge you. Sherlock didn’t work with everyone and neither should you.
Stay in your genius zone. When Holmes was really focused on thinking he’d even have Watson read things to him.
Give yourself a great — but clear — title so people get what you do. Sherlock is a “consulting detective” and he made the title up.
If you hate marketing yourself, get help. We all know Watson was Holmes’ chronicler. Or in the BBC version, his blogger.
Have a consistent look that presents you well and communicates you’re an expert. Holmes’ deerstalker hat, Inverness cape, and curvy pipe are even more iconic than Benedict Cumberbtach’s coat and scarf.
Keep a close circle of experts you trust who help you and who you involve in your projects. We all need a Mrs. Hudson and a whole group of “Irregulars” to call on when we need help. And it goes without saying that we’d all love to have as loyal a friend as Dr. Watson to work with.
Above all, be you. Because you’re the only one too.
Happy birthday Mr. Holmes.
He dreamed of creating big buildings and traveling to exotic locations.
As he dreamed, he lived a life of service and sacrifice; preparing and waiting for his dreams to come true.
George had been dreaming of the day he’d escape the tiny town he lived in and had saved a lot of money. He looked forward to spending some of that on his honeymoon with Mary, the love of his life.
Unfortunately for him he got married on the day there was a financial crisis that caused a run on the bank and on the savings bank he ran.
His money went to keep his business afloat.
He worked hard to serve his clients and to be a good member of his community. But he often resented the sacrifices he made and wished business wasn’t so hard.
He once had a big juicy carrot dangled in front of him in the form of a job working for Mr. Potter…the richest man in town who owned everything but the business George and his family had built.
Boy it was tempting to take that carrot.
Enough money to live comfortably for the first time in his life. To be able to give his family the sort of things he wanted them to have and to live in a nicer home.
But he realized for just a moment that if he bent his values and lost control, his customers would have no choice but to turn to the spider-like Mr. Potter whose primary mission in life was control and profit.
So he turned Mr. Potter down and went back to work with his ethics in tact but his bank account still low.
George carried his uncle in his business until one day when the absent-minded uncle made a huge financial mistake on the worst of all possible days to make one – when the auditors showed up.
George believed he was ruined.
He had scrimped and saved and sacrificed…for what? To be arrested for embezzlement and to go to prison when he had done nothing wrong? To have his family shamed?
But George could see no way out of his problem.
Standing on the bridge in the middle of a blizzard, George believed he’d be worth more dead than alive. And as he looked at the freezing, black water below he believed he and everyone else would have been better off had he never been born.
You know the rest of the story.
Clarence, George’s guardian angel, gave George the amazing gift of seeing what the world would have truly been like had George never been born.
George saw what would have happened had he not been around to save people like Mr. Gower, the pharmacist driven by his own broken heart to fill a prescription with poison; Harry, George’s brother who George pulled from the freezing lake when the ice broke and who went on to save thousands of men in the war; his Uncle Billy who couldn’t run the family business on his own and went insane when it failed; the hundreds of depositors who were unable to afford homes or grow their businesses because George wasn’t around to help them. And the community that wasn’t able to grow and become a desirable place to live because George’s impact wasn’t able to ripple out to touch even those who didn’t know him.
Instead negativity rippled out because George wasn’t there.
YOU’RE George Bailey to hundreds, if not thousands, of people.
Your message and your solutions ripple out as people embrace them and apply the information you share, benefit from the skills you teach and use the advice you share.
But each time you choose to play small…to hold yourself back….to not put out a piece of content or share your message…you keep others from benefiting and from living up to their full potential.
The secret to attracting more clients is to put yourself out there more. It’s to demonstrate – to pre-sell – your knowledge, skills, and expertise in a way that resonates with those you’re meant to serve. And that gives them a clear idea of what it would be like to work with you.
I know that can be scary.
You run the risk of rejection.
And it can feel as if it’s hard to get your message right, to choose the right platform to deliver it, to focus your message so it resonates with just the right people.
Marketing isn’t about us, the entrepreneur. It’s about the person we’re meant to help. It’s a way to communicate valuable information that educates and inspires.
Remember, the word “sell” comes from the word “sellan” and the original definition was “to give.”
Those of us who hate selling need to remember that selling isn’t about getting or convincing. It’s about giving.
Giving our message…giving our services…giving our support and processes. Giving our best.
And that means we receive when the person we serve gives back to us in the form of compensation. It’s simply and exchange of value.
We give free information as an introduction and for those who are ready for the changes we help them make, that deeper help has a higher value.
There’s no shame in charging the prices you charge. You deserve to be well compensated so you can do even more good in the world.
So when you resist putting yourself out there…you don’t use video….you don’t update your blog….you don’t create courses and books…you don’t have a podcast or live stream show…and don’t appear as a guest on others shows…and give in to let your ego and pride take over to keep you safe by convincing you that no one wants to hear what you have to say or that they’ve heard it all before….
You’re keeping someone from doing, being, or having all they could.
You’re keeping someone from healing…from learning…from improving…from experiencing the abundance waiting for them. From improving their environment.
No one said this would be easy.
The entrepreneurial life is full of sacrifice and tough choices. But it’s also full of rewards that come from giving our best in service to others.
Each of us is the star of the movie that is our life. But we’re also playing a part in the lives of others.
Sometimes we’re a co-star. Other times we’re a supporting or a bit player.
But if you refuse the role you could play, it’s harder if not impossible for that person to be, do, or have all they could if you only stood up and put yourself out there.
The choice is yours.
You can stay hidden and protect your ego; or you can come out of hiding and get your message out in a bigger, bolder way and help others as you help yourself and contribute to creating a better world for everyone. Because it really is a wonderful life when you fulfill your potential and help others fulfill theirs.
It’s the holiday season and that means lots of parties and networking opportunities.
Did I just hear you groan?
I get it.
As an introvert, I’ve never liked going to rubber chicken lunches or dinners, sitting next to people I don’t know, and feeling like everyone I was talking to was either trying to impress me with their amazing background or was trying to sell me on working with them.
Most of the time, both of those things.
As if that’s not bad enough, then there are the events we have to go to during the holidays with our significant other.
Theoretically we know these are great opportunities to make connections and we know we need to approach these things with a positive mindset, it’s still hard to muster positive feelings when our past experience has been negative.
Like the time I was at an event and a guy walked up to the group I was in, handed us all his business card (like he was a walking poker dealer), and then just walked away.
Or the time when I got home from an event and discovered 3 people had added me to their newsletter list without asking.
But, you can really turn these events into a positive one (or at least make them less painful) by trying one or more of my favorite strategies.
Here’s a quick example for a tax accountant:
“I believe small business owners should definitely pay all the taxes and fees they owe the government. But not a penny more. Entrepreneurs have enough to do trying to run and grow a profitable business. Trying to manage the financial end of things and keep track of when to make tax payments is not something they want to worry about but missing a payment can lead to a big penalty and a lot of stress. They try using an accounting software and may even have a bookkeeper but as the business grows and becomes more complex, more attention and focus is needed specifically on the tax situation. That’s where my firm comes in. We help small businesses of up to 50 employees pay their local, state, and federal taxes easily and without a hassle. And our focus often helps clients save money.”
If that seems too long for you then try simplifying your introduction to focus on just the problem or just the solution.
Our accountant would say “My firm helps small businesses save on their taxes.” That would lead someone to say “Wow. How do you do that?”
And suddenly you’re in a conversation and actually talking about your offerings.
Just keep your statements brief, and focused on the problem and those you solve it for.
If you’re really uncomfortable about going to an event, here are two bonus tips that work for me.
First, reach out to a well-connected friend who may be going and ask him / her to introduce you to specific types of people who will be there. This could be owners of certain types of businesses…people who live near you…etc.
And if you don’t know anyone going, then reach out to the organizer of the event. Explain your situation and ask for them to introduce you to some people to help you break the ice at the event. You could ask them to introduce you to the best connected person in the group or someone they think is a natural connector.
Holiday events can be great opportunities to make new connections for the coming year, so don’t dread them; embrace them. The tips I shared can help you stand out and connect with others easier.
What strategies work for you?
It was decent – grammatically correct, short, to the point, direct language.
It didn’t make me want to take the action she wants the reader to take.
This client is probably one of the smartest people I know. The work she does is incredibly high value and makes a tremendous impact on the clients she works with by improving sales and cash flow while reducing their stress.
But her copy was “just the facts ma’am” sort of copy.
I understand where this comes from because I suffered from it myself when I first started as a copywriter.
One of the things the clients I served (while working at two different agencies) liked was that they believed I sounded like them and wrote what they’d say if they could think like that.
The biggest thing they liked was that I never made them sound salesy.
While I never tried to be one of those “BUY NOW!!” copywriters, I knew I had to touch potential clients in their heart as well as in their head.
That means that the headline is compelling – it gets the reader’s attention and draws them in to read the next sentence in the copy.
And every sentence is written with the intention of inspiring the prospective client to read the next line.
But you can’t be blah. People are in a hurry. They’re busy. They’re juggling multiple issues.
You’ve got to grab their attention and inspire them to action…whether that’s to join your community by opting in, opt-in for a bigger piece of content than “just” your newsletter, or to make a purchase.
And we’re all super pressured and time-crunched. Especially entrepreneurs, self-employed professionals, and owners of micro firms.
You know that in theory right?
You know that people buy on emotion and rationalize with logic. (Just ask my husband who came home from the car dealership with a different car than the one he went there to buy.)
Here are 4 common reasons you likely find it hard to add emotion to your blog posts, sales pages, and emails. Let’s see which one(s) resonate with you.
I know I did.
So here are a few easy ways to dip your toe in to adding more emotion and connecting with the dominant emotions of your audience.
Get to the emotion behind what your audience wants. Yes, your potential client wants to have their problem solved but they want it solved for the emotional outcome solving it provides. People aren’t just “happy” you solved their problem. Are they “relieved” because you took a project over that they weren’t going to get done? Do they now have “less stress” and are “able to be fully present” with family on the weekends now. Think about what you give them. There are emotions in there. Identify them.
Use testimonials. Can’t come up with the words to emotionalize a benefit? Take excerpts from a testimonial. Your clients have no problem gushing about how fabulous you are and the joy they felt when you helped them achieve something.
Get out a thesaurus. Whether you use the online version or whip out your trusty Roget’s, sometimes you just need help coming up with a better word. You can also grab the list of 317 Power Words on Jon Morrow’s SmartBlogger site. Remember, you’re goal isn’t to choose the biggest words, just the ones that are more compelling than the not so exciting ones you’re using.
Remember, you’ve got to connect emotionally with your audience as well as communicate a message that makes sense to them logically.
But clients choose to work with you because they trust you, feel you understand them, and want the solution you offer in the way you offer it. Let them see how much you understand them by using emotional terms that reflects what’s going on in their heart and head.
Do you struggle to use emotion in your copy?
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Welcome to the Courageous Entrepreneur Show. This is the show that shares information and inspiration to help you break free from self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and disempowering patterns and break through to create the thriving, successful business you dream of and deserve.
The show features interviews with entrepreneurs who’ve overcome amazing challenges to create success on their terms and experts who share insight and practical information that can help you get past your blocks and move forward with courage, confidence, and clarity.
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While you may not be thinking about starting a nonprofit, there are many lessons to be learned by hearing about the ups and downs of launching one since as my guest says, it’s really just another form of a business.
This episode has a little longer set of application exercises which I explain at the end of the interview.
In this episode you’ll meet Dr. Monique Y. Wells who is the founder of The Wells International Foundation. Monique is a native of Houston TX and a resident of Paris, France. She is a veterinary pathologist and toxicologist, world-traveler, serial entrepreneur, and arts enthusiast. Her dedication to empowering minorities, women, and young people led her to launch her foundation in 2015 and is the driving force behind its mission.
Listen in as Monique and I discuss…
As always, listen all the way to the end where I’ll share your reflection exercise and action step for this episode.
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Being self-employed is wonderful. Except that it’s easy to get distracted, grab at every Bright Shiny Object, and get confused following every guru.
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He turns to her and says “Take heart, daughter; your faith has made you well.”
I have a love-hate relationship with Halloween.
I’ve never really understood why people get dressed up and go to the homes of strangers who are then supposed to give them candy. Can’t you just buy it?
And the town I live in says Halloween has to start at some ridiculous time like 5pm.
I’m supposed to stop working early because strangers are at my door and they want free candy?
Makes no sense to me.
Which is why, when I was 8 years old, I told my parents I wasn’t doing it.
The candy was where I was already. I didn’t have to go get more.
But one thing I do love is decorating for Halloween.
Since we moved, I don’t decorate as elaborately as I used to. But I still love to put my favorite pieces out.
This week, as I was putting out my Halloween classic monster beanies, it dawned on me that many of us have content strategies that are aligned with classic Hollywood monsters.
So with all due respect to the various copyright holders, let’s see which classic monster you’re most like when it comes to your content creation, delivery, and marketing.
Your monster avatar is Wolfman if you only create and distribute content once in a full….scratch that…blue moon.
Building a brand that solidly positions you as the obvious, trusted authority that creates desire in your audience to learn more and work only with you requires putting out great content on a consistent basis. The absolute minimum is once a month in my opinion. I think it’s reasonable to create something twice a month. So if you’re not sending out regular communications — more than once every 28 days — then it’s time to ask yourself why and create a plan to step it up.
Frankenstein’s Monster. The poor monster maker, Dr. Frankenstein, got overshadowed by his creation and we don’t refer to the monster as his credit says in the movie (“the monster”…how original). Instead we refer to the monster by the doc’s last name.
You have the Monster as an avatar if your content is a hodge-podge of topics, themes, and messages. At least you’re putting out SOMETHING…but since you don’t have a clear and consistent message then your content doesn’t get people too excited. You actually confuse people about what you do and what you’re the expert at. And we all know “a confused mind never buys.”
You’re not building a strong brand that sets you apart as the go-to person so you’re hard to find and even harder to refer. Without strong positioning as a go-to authority, potential clients or students are likely to waste money on big, expensive programs that don’t meet their needs because the person selling it has a bigger “name” than you do. When you finally do talk to people or put in proposals, you have to work harder for the person to say yes.
Mummy. Maybe you put out content pretty regularly. And the content is good. But once you publish it you never share it again. In effect, it’s buried. Just like Imhotep, the original mummy played by the legendary Boris Karloff.
Your solid piece of content sits on your website but it might as well be buried inside a tomb. The web visitor had to work hard to find the content and you. Maybe Google and the other search engines have to work hard to find your content to have it appear in the search results because, without the right elements and without consistent, unified content, what you create might as well be inside a sarcophagus deep inside a pyramid.
Ghost. The first ghost that comes into my mind isn’t really scary. It’s Casper. Hey, he’s a friendly ghost right (boy am I dating myself or what?)? The problem is Casper only appears to certain people. He’s a scaredy-ghost.
Your monster avatar is Casper if you only create content for “friends”…People who are on your list or otherwise already in your community. You don’t provide that “top of the funnel” sort of content that a new audience member would find helpful to introduce you and your approach.
You’re also a Casper if you create content that doesn’t invite people to take the next step, whether that’s take a quiz, attend an event, or more importantly work with you or otherwise go deeper to achieve the transformation they want and that you provide.
Casper was too nice. He just wanted people to be his friend. Which is nice, but you want a list of people who are highly engaged and ready to take action to get to the next level.
You’re represented by this monster if you only send out super thin content.
Your articles might share tips but they never have the kind of “meaty” detail that would help them truly understand the action to take.
Maybe you’re stuck in the mindset that “if I share my best tips and how-to’s no one will hire me.” That’s flat out wrong. Someone on a webinar made a great analogy: You still go to a movie even though you saw the trailer, right? Content that’s meaty and longer does a great job of solidly positioning you as the knowledgeable expert authority while it educates the reader (or viewer…or listener….of whatever). Meaty copy (1600 words) is actually what people want and gets consumed.
People want real value. And as long as your content addresses an important problem and shares how to fix it, your audience will read it.
It takes longer-ish copy for you to pre-sell your POV, and inspire your consumer enough to take action when you invite them to do so (in other words action on your call to action).
Dracula. I grew up watching Dark Shadows. Yes, the ORIGINAL one. And no I didn’t watch the reruns.
I ran home from school every day to see it.
I ended up so scared every SINGLE night that I slept with the covers pulled up around my throat until I started having hot flashes 40 years later.
Listen, I know you hate selling. That’s actually a big part of the problem. You’re so terrified of becoming like “them” that you avoid putting out content and when you do put something out you can’t bring yourself to make an offer for fear that people will think you’re salesy.
But…you DO have to eat and you DO have to keep the electricity and Internet on.
So Dracula is your Content Monster Avatar if you only send out content when you want something. When you (your content) shows up, people KNOW an offer is coming and to be honest, they’re not really interested because you’re never around sharing useful information that educates them while elevating you in their eyes and heart. Then you go into hiding again because you’re disgusted by acting like a taker (like Drac…he’s the ultimate taker).
And of course if you act like one of these monsters your business isn’t growing, your brand isn’t growing, and you have to work harder than you want to or feel you should.
This is why a content strategy and content calendar are so important.
Here are some quick tips to really leverage content to position and pre-sell you and make it easier for great clients to say yes to working or learning from you:
Identify your core message, your sub-messages, and stick to them. Remember, your objective is to be seen as the go-to person in the eyes of those you serve.
You can only do that when you continuously share content that’s consistently on-message.
Know what your offerings are and when you’ll promote them. Whether you provide custom solutions all year or you have courses you offer, naturally you want everything to be bought all the time.
But to effectively manage your time and leverage it well you must focus on certain offerings at certain times. Create a calendar – even if it means ballparking what you’ll promote in quarters – and then start mapping out content topics that will inspire and invite the content consumer to take the next step.
You can plan to fill in gaps in your calendar with related topics that may simply inspire people to stay in or join your community. You don’t need to have an explicit call to action to buy or do something.
About 6 to 8 weeks before you launch, start sharing educationally-focused content tied directly to the problem addressed by your offering.
Get people excited about the next content piece in the process. Help them see that this is a series and encourage them to keep an eye out for the next piece. Share a couple of bullet points with them to get them interested in it.
Identify themes and events then tie them to your content. That’s what I did here. I capitalized on the holiday of Halloween and used what was in my house. This helps inspiration show up for work and do her job.
Create a calendar and schedule the work. This is one that I’m still working on myself.
To make sure our work has as much impact as possible, we need to map out our schedule to include time every day to work on the small pieces of content (like articles or short videos) and the big pieces of content (white papers, books, or video series for example).
Micro steps are the best way to do it. Just a few minutes every day where you capture your thoughts on your content will get you farther than trying to block out an entire day or even an hour to get something done.
Publish, share, share again. Sure you posted the article on your blog and maybe shared it on your other social sites, but do you have it automated through a tool like Hoot Suite to go out periodically?
Re-sharing content is a very smart move, especially if your content is evergreen.
It’s exactly the best strategy for someone like you who hates to sell and isn’t crazy about marketing.
The word Sell comes from the word Sellan which means to give.
So embrace that original definition and the formula, Educate => Elevate => Inspire => Invite. Then you’ll be on your way to position and presell yourself as the go-to trusted authority for your best clients.
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The advisor went on to explain that toilet paper and toothpaste are the sort of thing that people look at and immediately understand what they are and what they do. The potential buyer can then quickly decide to purchase without a lot of agonizing over the decision.
He recommended that Jason’s pricing model be that clear and simple.
That got me thinking about all the times I’ve met someone at an event and couldn’t understand what they did or offered.
And it got me thinking critically about my own rebrand and my new offerings.
It’s not easy to be “like toilet paper and toothpaste.”
Here are some tough questions to ask we all need to ask ourselves that can help us see if we passed the TP test.
That means I didn’t have anything to negotiate with.
If there was something in the proposal that someone was willing to live without or an outcome they were willing to do without then I could remove that which would lower the price but there’s no negotiating. But lots of people feel like they have to negotiate because they’re conditioned to with an entrepreneur whose business is built on a consulting model.
I also had to admit that I wasn’t perceived as totally unique.
This is painful to admit but important.
Once you recognize that you’re out of alignment with yourself and your beliefs, you can recognize things like you’re trying to follow a model that’s not right for you.
Really tune into the nonverbal cues others are displaying when you talk and fully listen to what is being said in response to you.
Also examine the quantity and quality of your referrals. If you’re constantly wondering why you get poor quality referrals — people you don’t and can’t truly help — then that’s a sign your message isn’t simple or clear.
Keeping your messaging, offers, and pricing simple while sharing useful content through blog posts and social networking sites is a key element of selling your services when you hate selling. It helps you communicate what makes you truly unique, educate your audience while elevating yourself as a trusted authority and demonstrating your expertise which can help you pre-sell someone on working with you, buying from you, or referring to you.
Which of these questions do you struggle with the most?
In Monday’s episode of The Courageous Entrepreneur, Dorit Sasson and I discussed her “running away” from life in the United States to a new life in Israel where she had / has duel citizenship.
In other words, she was a typical college student.
She was also looking to escape a mother who had become suffocating.
Although Dorit’s mother loved her and was a talented musician with her own career as a concert pianist, she was “fearful of everything.” That’s naturally suffocating; and Dorit was anxious to get as far away from her and that feeling of suffocation as possible.
Relocating to Israel was certainly a way to escape.
One of the issues that resonated with me and that left me thinking long after the interview was this issue of running away.
I know there are people out there who would tell Dorit that she should have stood up to her mother and said “enough!” Or that she should have just ignored the woman and her fears.
Just like there are people who think I should have stood up to my mother when she began to belittle and verbally abuse me in adult hood.
But WE’RE in the moment. It’s up to us to make the best decision we can IN that moment.
And sometimes, running away is actually the best thing to do.
True it might be avoiding the problem but I think of it as giving ourselves time for self-protection and to allow us time to collect our thoughts so we can address the problem in a healthy way.
Of course we think we’re running away FROM someone or something…something outside of ourselves, and running TOWARDS something else — a person…a place….a thing….even just running towards the unknown when the KNOWN is not what we want.
We believe that the answer is outside of us when in reality it’s INSIDE us.
Dorit had to work through different issues when she was in Israel. Life wasn’t perfect.
It’s never perfect anywhere (at least not until we grow to the point we’re able to see the perfect imperfection in it all).
She had to reflect, and grow, and figure things out for herself. And she needed to do all that without her mother’s interference.
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Reflect on what you may be running from in your life.
What truth are you not facing? Who and what would you and could you become if you faced it and used it as an opportunity to truly grow.
Are you still haunted by a mistake you made? By some perceived failure?
Are you running away from some situation that’s left you guilt ridden?
The answer to our greatest problem is inside ourselves.
Accessing that answer takes reflection…prayer….connecting with God and deepening our faith and trust in Him.
Looking outside of ourselves for answers — from gurus or pundits or so-called experts — but what really needs to happen is to become more in tune with God’s message for us.
I heard pastor Joel Osteen say that we don’t hear God’s message because we’re listening for it with our ears and He’s speaking to us in our hearts.
We also struggle to access the wisdom within because we feel so inadequate…as if we’re not good enough…to know the answer. Others must be smarter than we are.
The answer your looking for and the courage you need is inside you waiting to be accessed through a connection with the Holy Spirit.