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From Abused to Abundant

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Welcome to the Courageous Entrepreneur Show. This is the show that shares information and inspiration to help you break free from self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and disempowering patterns and break through to create the thriving, successful business you dream of and deserve.

The show features interviews wotj entrepreneurs who’ve overcome amazing challenges to create success on their terms and experts who share insight and practical information that when you take action on it can help you get past your blocks and move forward with courage, confidence, and clarity.

The show is available in both video and audio format on a variety of platforms including Apple Podcasts – formerly iTunes – on You Tube, and on my website Winnie Anderson dot com.

I often think of the famous quote by Mother Teresa…”I know God wouldn’t give me anything I can’t handle. I just wish he didn’t trust me so much.”

In today’s episode you’ll hear from speaker and coach Mark Baker who shares his experiences of surviving an abusive childhood and winding up homeless to creating the financially and emotionally abundant life he now enjoys.

Listen in as Mark shares:

  • Tips to get past limiting beliefs and the one fact about those beliefs that I don’t think you’ll hear anyone else share.
  • The key technique that he used that is the same one top athletes and performers share with politicians and business leaders to produce the outcome they want.
  • What’s missing from most positive thinking.
  • And lots more great tips and insight.
  • Mark talks about his own bout with cancer and I want to make clear we’re not doctors we’re not giving medical advice so if you suspect you’re not well get professional help.
  • With that said, stick around all the way to the end where I’ll share your reflection exercise and action step.

 

Guest Contact Information

Mark’s Website

Mark on social media – 

Facebook

LinkedIn

Twitter

You Tube

Mark’s Special Offer:
Listeners who contact Mark and let them know they heard his episode on The Courageous Entrepreneur show will receive a year-long coaching package with Mark for just $1250. This includes one session a month with him plus email in between sessions

Get a free session with Mark by emailing him at mark baker speaks (type as all one word) at gmail dot com (type as a normal email address)

Additional Resources You May Find Helpful

Survivor to Thriver: Manual and workbook for adult survivors of child abuse who want to move on with life (this is what I used to work through my abuse)

Mike Michalowicz Business Building Strategies for Courageous Entrepreneurs

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Welcome to the Courageous Entrepreneur Show. This is the show that shares information and inspiration to help you break free from self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and disempowering patterns and break through to create the thriving, successful business you dream of and deserve.

The show features interviews with entrepreneurs who’ve overcome amazing challenges to create success on their terms and with experts who share insight and practical information that can help you move forward with courage, confidence, and clarity.

The show is available in both video and audio format on a variety of platforms including iTunes, You Tube, and on my website Winnie Anderson.com.

There are a lot of “shoulds” and “must do’s” according to gurus and they all have their take on the answer to your problems. Few are genuinely able to help you leverage what works and build a thriving business around that in the way that today’s expert can.

In today’s episode you’ll hear from former Wall Street Journal columnist and multi-best selling author Mike Michalowicz.

Mike came across his knowledge the hard way – by 35 he had started and sold two multi-million dollar companies. Confident he had the formula for success he became an angel investor and proceeded to lose his entire fortune.

He regularly talks about how although he ran an outwardly successful company he actually lived check to check until he realized how to manage his business revenue and put profit first.

His mission now is to eradicate entrepreneurial poverty.

He’s the four time best selling author of Surge, Profit First, the Pumpkin Plan, and the book that Business Week deemed “the entrepreneur’s cult classic,” The Toiletpaper Entrepreneur.

This isn’t as much of an interview as it is a workshop as Mike shares incredible insight into growing a profitable business built on your strengths.

You’re going to hear…
• The single biggest thing an entrepreneur needs to do to lay a foundation for real profitability.
• How our behavior patterns of the past can keep us trapped where we are or worse set us back to where we don’t want to be
• The big mistake we make when trying to course correct that actually makes things worse, not better
• Two ways to scale your business and tips for choosing which is right for you
• Why building on your strengths and hiring to manage your weaknesses is a key to success
• The simple 3 part rule that helps you put a problem in perspective so you can decide on the best course of action
• Why a “rally cry” is critical for your business and how it can work to attract the right clients and partners and how to create yours
• The benefits of being a true recognized expert in your field.

Listen in all the way to the end and I’ll share your reflection exercise and action step for this episode.

Guest Contact Information

Mike’s website – Get the great free resources there

Social media:

Mike’s You Tube channel (great videos)

Follow Mike on Twitter

Connect with him on his Facebook business page

 

Recognizing and Overcoming Fears, Doubts, and Limiting Beliefs

Welcome to The Courageous Entrepreneur Show. This is the show that shares information and inspiration to help you move past fear, self-doubt, and limiting beliefs so you can achieve the success you dream of and deserve.

In this episode you’re going to meet Sheila Stevenson. She’s an expert coach who works with people dealing with emotional issues surrounding trauma.

Sheila is an Associate Certified Coach, an Adler trained coach, and a member of the International Coach Federation.

She’s certified in “Living Systems Approach” to coaching with families and she’s completed Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training.

Sheila is a published author, and an inspiring and informative speaker.

She’s a member of “Opening the Circle”, an emergent project begun in January 2014, in which men and women who are survivors of sexual abuse, their family members, and community service providers meet regularly to develop community, and to create useful and effective tools for support. In January 2013 Sheila founded the “Learning and Support Group for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse.” And she’s served on the Board of Directors of Child Pornography Hurts, Inc and Youth Opportunities Unlimited.

In this episode Sheila shares…

  • The conflicting messages and conditioning we experience during our lives and how that can contribute to developing disempowering beliefs and patterns.
  • How to recognize our limiting beliefs and begin to effectively deal with them to move forward towards our goals.
  • Tips for recognizing when and how our beliefs are holding us back from the professional success we want and deserve.

Be sure to listen all the way to the end where I’ll share your reflection exercise and action step for this episode.

 

Guest Contact Information

Sheila’s website – drop her a line and let her know you heard her on the show. She has a limited time offer of 15% off on coaching.

Sheila on social media:  Facebook     Linkedin     Twitter

 

Other Episodes Referenced by This One

Melvin Pillay,

 

Additional Resources

From Sheila’s Blog:  Trauma Can Obscure Your Reality — Don’t Let It

Survivor to Thriver: Manual and workbook for adult survivors of child abuse who want to move on with life

 

 

 

 

How to Deal with the Sudden Death of Your Business Partner

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When we were in corporate life we could consider ourselves lucky if we had one good work friend who shared our workspace or who we worked on projects with.

Whether you’re a corporate escapee or an accidental entrepreneur, one of the dreams you may have had when you started your coaching, consulting, or other expertise-based business was that you could work with people you genuinely like, even love.

So imagine the fun, the excitement of building a business with your best friend.

Even in the struggles, you’ve got someone to share the ups and downs, to lighten the load, and to help maximize revenue.

But what happens when it suddenly ends — and it ends because of a tragedy?

In today’s episode you’ll meet Everett O’Keefe the owner of an agency called The Solution Machine.

Listen in and you’ll hear him share…

  • How he and his best friend finally got their struggling business on a solid financial footing and were beginning to grow when suddenly his partner suddenly passed away.
  • How he dealt from the loss from a business standpoint and shares tips for how you can begin planning now for the worst
  • How he was able to meet the needs of his clients and complete the projects he and his partner had committed to
  • Lessons he learned — personally and professionally — while dealing with his loss
  • What to think of from a business standpoint to reduce your exposure to risk

 

Additional Resources

What if Your Business Partner Died Tonight?

Accounting for the Death of a Partner

The video version of this interview:

Guest Contact Information

Everett’s business website

Get information on The Master’s Mastermind’s next retreat

Get Everett’s 7 Essential Tips to Get the Most Out of A Mastermind

 

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Could PTSD Be Contributing to What’s Holding You Back?


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Each of us goes through a variety of challenges as we move through our lives from childhood through adulthood.

Those challenges leave us with emotional and psychological wounds that can vary from superficial scratches to deep cuts.

How we respond to those situations is unique to each of us; and what one person may feel is not a big deal, another person may experience as profoundly wounding.

Over time, an accumulation of small wounds that are unaddressed could result in a deep emotional injury.

Often without our even realizing it.

And the strategies we adopt to deal with the slings and arrows of life as well as with circumstances that are profoundly hurtful — like losing a job, getting divorced, being the victim of a crime, chronic bullying and more — can eventually become ineffective and actively hold us back when we’re out on our own as independent professionals.

In this episode of The Courageous Entrepreneur Show, you’ll meet my friend and colleague Nancy Philpott.

Nancy is a registered Nurse, a hypnotherapist, and an emotional health strategist and coach. She’s the Chief Transformation Officer for Heart Sync Wellness Center and Founder of the Emotional Resilience Challenge and the Emotional Resilience Academy.

Nancy’s specialty is helping nurses, health professionals, military service members, caregivers, and their family members recognize, prevent, and recover from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Compassion Fatigue, and burnout.

Listen in as Nancy and I discuss…

  • What trauma is and why it can be different for each person
  • How the brain processes trauma
  • How trauma can impact our ability to interact with the world
  • How being a witness to trauma can impact you.
  • Symptoms that could indicate you’ve got unresolved trauma issues that interfere with your goal achievement
  • Suggestions to help you break free and break through.

Disclaimer:

Keep in mind that we’re speaking in big terms here. We’re not doctors and we’re not giving medical advice.

This episode is designed to educate and inform. So if you think you’ve got an issue and need help, contact a local healthcare professional and if you feel as though you’re at the end of your rope, be sure to dial 911.

Remember, it’s courageous and brave to ask for help.

Be sure to stick around until the end of the interview where I’ll share your reflection exercise and action step for this episode.

Learn More About Today’s Guest – Nancy Philpott

Nancy and her team of experts provide tips, tools, and emotional investment strategies to help you build emotional resilience. Go to EmotionalResilienceChallenge.com to join the free 10-day challenge.

You can visit her at HeartSyncWellness.com to learn more about the programs and resources available.

You can find her on Facebook.

Nancy on PsychologyToday.com

Terms Used in This Episode

Anxiety

Compassion Fatigue

PTSD

Resources Referred to in This Episode

The Mayo Clinic’s definition of Post-Traumatic Stress Syndrome aka  PTSD.

Video version of the interview

The Power of Faith to Overcome Trauma, Grow Your Business

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Aligning faith and work isn’t easy.

When business coach Ed Rush invited me to a workshop he was putting on in San Diego that he called Ultimate Breakthrough that would specifically discuss how to merge faith with growing a business, I knew I had to attend.

It was a great event for many reasons but it really threw me for a loop.

While at that event I realized that there was a calling I was resisting. That event — and specifically Melvin’s message — helped me give in to that call and start this show.

I made sure to connect with him on Facebook and I make sure to watch his daily videos for my “daily dose of Melvin”.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a pit of unworthiness…knowing you were called for more but afraid to take action, then I hope this episode speaks to you.

My guest grew up in apartheid South Africa as one of six children in a Hindu family. They were incredibly poor living in a tin shack with no running water. But he was greatly influenced by his mother and her belief in Jesus.

She used to tell him that if he ever wanted anything he was to pray to Jesus.

Melvin went from spending $2 to rent an audio tape of the legendary speaker Zig Ziglar to becoming a vice president in the Ziglar organization. Today, he’s a an advisor to CEOs, political leaders, and entrepreneurs looking to take themselves, their countries, and their businesses to new heights of success in a way that’s consistent with their faith.

In this episode of The Courageous Entrepreneur show Melvin reveals…

  • The role faith plays in helping us break free from the chains of trauma
  • How to deal with feelings of unworthiness and embrace the fact that Jesus is our brother
  • How shame can block faith
  • How an abundance mindset fits with being faithful

…and so much more.

Learn More About Today’s Guest

You can reach Melvin…

Go Deeper with Additional Research

Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill

 

 

Managing ADHD and Entrepreneurship


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There are a million things that need to be done as you grow and run a business. And since we entrepreneurs tend to share certain characteristics like a love of learning, a tendency to be early adopters of technology, and creative idea machines it can be easy to have a million projects in various stages of launching that never get anywhere.

And as the stress and frustration mount it can be easy to frantically try new things, throw new ideas and projects at the wall to make something stick when the answer might in fact be the opposite.

As a productivity coach and host of Crusher™TV, Alan Brown teaches productivity “brain hacks” to crazy-busy professionals and entrepreneurs.

Alan is the #1 Best-Selling author of “Zen and the Art of Productivity: 27 Easy Ways to Have More Time, Earn More Money and Live Happier.”

A featured speaker in the U.S. and Europe, including a TEDx Talk, he uses his weekly online TV show, at CrusherTV.com, to help people live to their potential by “unleashing the power of their brains.”

Listen in and hear Alan reveal…

  • The percentage of the population believed to be undiagnosed with ADHD
  • Why ADHD-ers engage in risky behaviors
  • Things we commonly tell ourselves when we struggle with ADHD
  • Things to reflect on if you’re wondering if you may have ADHD

 

Resources

ADHD Self Test for Women

ADHD Self Test, General for Adults

ADD.org – ADHD Support

 

Guest Links

Alan’s website

Alan’s TEDx talk

 

Additional research

Adult ADHD Overview (MayoClinic)

8 Ways ADD is a Gift

ADHD Linked to Dopamine Levels

ADHD Statistics

Adult ADHD Support Groups

 

Making the Jump from Employee to Entrepreneur

Millions of people dream of ditching their corporate or organizational job to start their own business. Hundreds of thousands of people do it each year, few of them are successful.

Watch and listen in as M. Shannon Hernandez shares…

  • what led her to give up a 15 year career as a teacher (with great benefits and a pension) for the uncertainty of being an entrepreneur
  • the 4 people she hired right away — even though she had no clients!
  • the pricing strategy she followed even though she had no experience in her new profession
  • how she managed to quickly turn her business into a profitable, global brand

Pick up a copy of Shannon’s book

Visit her website to learn more about the Content Personality(TM) quiz and Shannon’s offerings including her international retreats.

Join the Content Strategy Lab on Facebook

 

Managing a Growing Business and a Growing Family While Dealing with Depression

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Welcome to the Courageous Entrepreneur Show. This is the show that shares information and inspiration to help you break free from self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and disempowering patterns and break through to create the thriving, successful business you dream of and deserve.

The show features interviews with entrepreneurs who’ve overcome amazing challenges to create success on their terms and experts who share insight and practical information to help you get past your blocks and move forward with courage, confidence, and clarity.

The show is available in both video and audio format on a variety of platforms including iTunes, You Tube, and on my website.

This episode along with the links and resources we mention can be found at Winnie Anderson dot com slash depression

You know, we have no problem talking about physical health issues. Someone asks how you’re doing and you say OK except my back is hurting today or I’m getting my knee replaced next week.

But when we have an emotional or mental health issue it’s difficult to admit and that can make it difficult to get help for.

Especially when you’re an entrepreneur.

It’s no secret that depression can be a problem for entrepreneurs and publications including the Guardian, Forbes, Inc, entrepreneur, fortune, and business insider have written about it. I’ll include links in the show notes to some of those articles.

So when I saw my friend and colleague Shanna Landoldt come clean about dealing with depression on FB I was floored.

I was impressed by her courage but also blown away because I never suspected she wrestled with the same issue I’ve wrestled with my entire life.

Shanna is a top recruiter and highly sought after media authority as a Career and LinkedIn Expert. She has been featured all across North America on NBC, ABC, CBS, FOX, CityTV & CTV.

She has authored 6 books and is a 4x #1 International Best Selling Author. She works with authors to launch their books as #1 Best Sellers on Amazon.

Entrepreneurs, organizations and people interested in Career Advancement hire Shanna to create compelling LinkedIn Profiles that get them found for their expertise.

Organizations hire Shanna as a Keynote Speaker at Industry Events to share how to create a personal brand in your business using Social Media & LinkedIn.

manages depression.

So listen in as Shanna shares…

  • What made her admit she has depression and the aftermath of that admission
  • How long she’s been dealing with this and how it first manifested
  • The shocking incident that made her realize she really had a problem and needed help
  • How depression has impacted her professionally and how she manages it
  • Her tips for other entrepreneurs who deal with depression and who want to be successful inspite of it.

Some Additional Resources for You

Shanna on Facebook, Linkedin, and Twitter

Her main website

Shanna’s book, Secrets From a Headhunter

Official definition of Depression at the American Psychological Association’s website

10 Signs It’s Time to Get Help for Depression

A Special Offer From Shanna

Shanna is an expert at creating LinkedIn profiles that get people found. If you want to learn more visit this link and check out her LinkedIn Profile Writing Service. When you talk to her be sure to tell you that you watched / heard her interview with me on The Courageous Entrepreneur Show! You’ll save $100.

Related Resources:

Mike Michalowicz – Business Growth Tips for Solo Professionals and Micro Firm Owners

The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship

Depression Among Entrepreneurs is an Epidemic Nobody is Talking About 

Slowly But Surely, More Entrepreneurs are Coming Out About Depression, Seeking Support Online 

 

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10 Tips to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

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Once we make the decision to go out on our own, it’s inevitable that we’ll start comparing ourselves to others who are also self-employed.

This type of behavior is deeply ingrained in us and can be seen in toddlers who recognize that another child has something they don’t and then baby B tries to take that thing away from baby A.

Growing up we’re compared to siblings, classmates, and neighbors in addition to seeing mass media and comparing ourselves to the rail thin models, journalists, and actors.

There’s healthy comparison which can work to empower us and then there’s unhealthy comparison which works to disempower and demoralize us.

Let’s look at the two of them.

Healthy comparison happens when you’re doing research and you look at the leaders in your profession or industry and you search for best practices and what works with the focus on reducing your learning curve or your path on the way to a specific outcome.

You look at websites for what’s working in terms of layout and content. You study offerings to see how things are packaged.

Then you think about what you’ve found and borrow what you like that works and modify it to fit yourself and your background.

During healthy comparison you don’t judge yourself as lacking or the other person as better than you. They’re where they are on their path and you’re where you are on yours.

Unhealthy comparison is when you look at what others do and focus on your inadequacy.

They’ve got a better website. They’re more successful. They’re more attractive. They speak better. Their message is more powerful.

Here the focus is not on what you can learn from them but on how lacking you are.

For an entrepreneur this is the path to depression, frustration, and misery.

This sort of comparison can happen even in supposedly supportive groups like a mastermind, accountability, or course group and that can lead to competition within the group.

But that’s not exactly negative.

The difference between healthy competition and unhealthy competition is the focus and interpretation of things.

Healthy competition is when the success of one person doesn’t mean failure for another. Where each member of the group is truly happy for the other and uses their colleague’s success as inspiration. Another’s success can be motivating. This happened with me when I met my friend John Cote, the host of the podcast Healthcare Elsewhere.

I met John not long after he launched the show and found his story so inspiring that I decided to launch my own show.

John’s attitude was “if I can do it anyone can” and I believed that too.

But still I don’t compare my show Let’s Talk Tech to his show Healthcare Elsewhere.

They’re different and we’re different.

But I think we all know the pain of comparing ourselves – especially in business – and finding ourselves lacking. Like I said, it can lead to depression and demotivation.

So how do you stop comparing yourself in a negative way?

Here are 7 things you can do.

  1. Be Grateful. This is a critical part of a successful attitude and triggers you energetically to become more attractive in every way. Think about it. Have you ever worked with ungrateful people? They never said thank you for help they got. They had this sense of entitlement every time the company or anyone else gave them something. They complain a lot because things aren’t good enough. Be grateful in all things for what you have. When you focus on the positive you attract people and opportunities.
  1. Be Happy for Others. I had to face the fact that at one point I was a very unhappy person. And I was jealous about the opportunities and successes that others got. Why didn’t good things happen to me? When I realized what I was thinking and how out of alignment those thoughts were with what I said I believed in my heart, I worked to become truly happy for others. I not only would tell them congratulations but I started sending notes and cards. I’d leave post-it notes for co-workers celebrating the smallest thing they did. I bought silly gifts for friends who got promotions. And I focused on becoming the best at what I did by building on my strengths and not focusing as much on my non-strengths.
  1. Examine your commitment. Sometimes we’ve been seduced into believing there’s a short cut to our goal. You might be able to avoid mistakes by following someone else’s path but you still have to make your own. So If you see someone making strides that you’re not, study what they’re doing. Would you be willing to make the sacrifices they made to get where they are? There’s an old saying that “everyone wants to be an author but no one wants to write the book.” Meaning that we might want the outcome but may not want to do the work to get it. How badly do you want to achieve something and why. Connecting to your core motivation can help you strengthen your commitment. But focus on what your achievement will do for others because the core mission we all share is to be in service to others.
  1. Be crystal clear on your goals.  “More money”…”more clients”….wanting to “serve more people” isn’t clarity. A penny is more money and I know I want more than that. Write your goals down (by hand if at all possible) and let them rest for a few days. If you read them and can ask questions about them then they’re not clear. The more clear you become the easier it is for your brain to focus on the outcome and support you to make it happen. And of course focus on what you DO want, not what you don’t.
  1. Focus on your own mission. Each of us has our own path to walk. Embrace your own mission of service and focus on that “inch wide and a mile deep” segment of the population you most want to serve. And truly see your work as a mission. When you do and you communicate what that is then those who are inspired by it while get behind you. You become easier to refer and easier to identify as an expert.
  1. Track your results. As legendary management guru Peter Drucker said, “What gets measured gets improved.”From monitoring our diets by writing down what we eat, to improving our fitness by tracking our steps, humans are motivated by tracking results. This is the only way you can really treat your business like a business. And it can inspire incremental improvements over your own (or your team’s) past performance. When I work with clients, this is an important part of supporting them with their goal attainment. It’s often the micro movements — toward a clear goal — that deliver the results we want.
  1. Practice good self care. Being self-employed is exciting and depressing all at the same time. It’s frustrating and liberating. It’s full of dichotomies and trade-offs. And while every entrepreneur works long hours building their business, we can’t afford not to take good care of ourselves. Sleeping well, working out, eating healthy food are all important in helping us manage our emotional state. Work too many 20 hour days and you’ll become cranky and miserable. It’s hard not to compare yourself to someone wildly successful who looks like they’ve got this great life with plenty of time off. But don’t do it. Remember, you’re seeing the outside that they likely work hard to control. Who knows what they wrestle with to make their life look so good.
  1. Change your inner monologue. Each of us has this constant chatter that runs through our heads nearly all day long. We figure out problems….we comment on the news….all inside our heads. Well that inner monologue can descend into a raging inner critic that can leave you comparing yourself to everyone from that skinny neighbor who runs past your office window every day to the Facebook friend who continuously posts these “Love my life!” posts.  While that might sound like you (’cause after all it IS your voice), it’s not you. It’s the voice of your worst critic from your past. Or it’s the voice of a situational critic — also from your past. Tell them to shut up. Start tuning in to what you’re saying to yourself, and change the script. Throw out the old tapes. They’re not serving you anyway. Be kind. Especially to yourself.
  1. Build relationships that support you. This is critical. Even if you’re an introvert like me, the chances are good you reach a point where you need to talk to actual adult humans. Cats are nice but not the same. There’s a reason prisons use solitary confinement as a punishment. So join productive and emotionally supportive groups online as well as in person and cultivate relationships with others who are similar to you. One of the great bonuses of taking courses or attending events is they often have a Facebook group. I’ve made some wonderful friendships with people all over the world as a result of online groups.
  1.  Celebrate. This is an important part of the whole business building, Law of Attraction stuff. I am working to improve on this. Too often we go from task to task, client to client, project to project without taking time to truly reward ourselves for our achievements. And if you’re like me — an adult survivor of child abuse — this may truly be a struggle. Those old tapes I mentioned in number 8 will replay and tell you that you don’t deserve to treat yourself. But oh yes you do. It’s demoralizing to continue to work without being rewarded. And you really do deserve to celebrate. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. I treat myself to lunch on the sofa with one of my three cats and a magazine. Sometimes I’ll go for a walk down to the river a few blocks away and just savor the quiet. Do something for yourself that feels like an indulgence. We know that gratitude is an important part of telling the Universe you’re ready for more. I think it’s also an important part of telling God thank you for the blessings you have.

Focusing on your own issues…taking care of yourself…being grateful for everything in your life…all of that is important for you to manage your stress, stay motivated, and to continue growing in a healthy way.