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Welcome to the Courageous Entrepreneur Show. This is the show that shares information and inspiration to help you break free from self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and disempowering patterns and break through to create the thriving, successful business you dream of and deserve.
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From the moment we’re born we start learning.
We discover that crying brings relief of our suffering and gets our needs met.
We absorb the sights, sounds, and lessons all around us.
As we grow, form our self-identity, and begin to dream of a future full of work we love that uses our great gifts and strengths we continue to absorb messages that others communicate to us intentionally and unintentionally.
When we join the working world we become part of organizations that have varying degrees of emotional health and it’s not always good.
While we develop the foundation of our professional future and hone our skills and craft we get exposed to the beliefs, values, and behavior patterns of others…what in HR terms is referred to as the organization’s culture.
Without realizing it, our beliefs and behaviors are influenced by our organizational life and while the patterns we developed contributed to our success inside the organizations we worked for, out on our own, those patterns – of thinking and acting – can become disempowering…holding us back from achieving the very success we dream of and deserve.
That’s what today’s episode is all about.
This is an unusual episode for me and for the show. This is an interview-based program as I said in the introduction.
But the past several weeks have been tough for me and for my guests.
I’ve had a rash of guests who needed to reschedule for health and personal reasons.
This has been a tough flu season and I had a terrible injury to my leg that made it nearly impossible for me to sit up for extended periods of time.
So I found myself without a completed show for this week but I hated the thought of not making good on my commitment of delivering useful information and I know the importance of consistency so I decided to come out of my comfort zone a bit and do a solo episode for you.
The information I’m going to share hit me like a ton of bricks a few years ago when I had what I can only classify as a nervous breakdown.
I was still in active recovery from my brain injury. TBI’s have a long recovery period and had reached a point of tremendous frustration as I was trying to build my solo consulting practice.
I realized that the strategies that had helped me survive an abusive childhood were in fact now actively holding me back. Things like perfectionism, conflict avoidance, and others.
The more I thought about those patterns the more I realized that they were the same patterns that contributed to my success as a corporate professional.
I’ve been fascinated by behavior and personality my whole life and have studied it in school, at work, and in life.
I have almost as many degrees as a thermometer – an associates in personnel administration, a bachelor’s degree in education with a teaching credential in general business…a master’s degree in Human Resources and 15 years as a certified senior professional in HR. I’ve also done post graduate level course work in counseling and psychology and have a bunch of additional certificates.
And I’ve got a PhD from the school of hard knocks with a major in self-sabotage.
One other element that makes me a bit quirkily unique is that brain injury.
In addition to having to relearn how to learn (even to the point of having to relearn how to tie my shows) I experienced a big personality shift.
Prior to the accident I had been what I would consider a solid ambivert who leaned towards extroversion.
But after the accident I became a true introvert.
I had to rediscover who I was and had to develop new ways of dealing with the world so I could be true to this new version of myself, continue to use my biggest gifts, and build the independent business I dreamed of.
So listen in as I share…
- 3 ways organizational life conditions us for struggle
- Why smart corporate escapees struggle to recreate the success they enjoyed as employees
- The reasons we move toward changes we want but can back slide or even give up
- And the elements I call the 6 pillars of courageous success
As always listen all the way to the end where I’ll share your cocktail exercise and action step for this episode.
Books / Resources Mentioned or That Relate to This Episode
Sylvia LaFair’s book, Don’t Bring It to Work — This book discusses the behaviors we develop as we grow in our family of origin and how we can bring those behavior patterns to the workplace with each person playing a specific role in our office “family” and how unhealthy that can be for the organization and for us.
Badass Your Brand — This book talks about positioning, packaging, and pricing your offerings as high-end. It supports what I was talking about with reference to productizing without commoditizing your offerings.
The No A**hole Rule — This is a great book that discusses the impact of negative people (to put it a little gently) in the workplace.